Teasing girls with Cardistry/flourishing

[BlueSpade1000]

Hey guys!!!

I normally take public transportation to school and I am always flourishing in public ALWAYS!!! When I am on the train I usually flourish a lot to get the attention of girls. For some reason every time I see a hot girl or a guys girlfriend I start to flourish as fast as I can. I always succeed to get their attention. In fact I do this so much that I am a celebrity in many schools I have never even been to around the city.

Is it wrong to tease girls like this???? If I go to college and I really do like a girl is it wrong to use flourishing to get her attention. Should i actually get to know the girl and then whip out my cards. What if the first encounter with that girl involves preforming to her.

I am asking this because I know flourishing can get old to many people ,and I do not want a girl who likes me only beacuse of this talent.

PS: I know every card artist has used flourishing to get the attention of girls at least once.

 

[chriswiehl]

its not a bad thing for attention, but i wouldnt put all my eggs in one basket. flourshing is made for attention. like other skills.
but dont do it too much. it you do get a gf or antyihg, they may become annoyed with it. i personally dont show my gf much magic cause she has been like, why do you always show me magic. so im like ok. and i dont rly do magic for her anymore. unless its a special thing, like a brand new trick that would make her go ohmygosh. but still.
just use it once in a while. try to meet girls w/out flourishing.
cause though flourishing is cool, im sure a girl would rather get a guy who can do more than just that.
if i could really yoyo super good, then i would get attention for girls, but they wont wanna tell their friends that i am cool cause i yo yo. just like they wont tell their friends that you can do cool things with cards. i think having a real good personality or being hot is more impressive to girls tho haha.

 

[TheNinjew]

I don't think it's wrong, but if you do it too much to one girl it will get old or may seem like you are showing off. Also, I believe you should get to know them first and then do it to impress them more.

 

[Steve Dio]

Ummmm... have you tried talking / socializing / appearing a normal person?

99% of the time a girl will think (at least) one of the following:
1) You're a geek showing off.
2) You're autistic.
3) You're trying too hard.

Sorry for being realistic. To answer your question, yes, it's wrong to overuse magic and/or flourishing in social encounters.

By the way - I can't figure out why so many kids want to impress girls that are accompanied. Every time this happens to me and my girlfriend, she's the first one to point out the geekiness of the individual and we proceed to making fun of him in private. We had many laugh out louds from such acts.

 

[Steerpike]

By the way - I can't figure out why so many kids want to impress girls that are accompanied. Every time this happens to me and my girlfriend, she's the first one to point out the geekiness of the individual and we proceed to making fun of him in private. We had many laugh out louds from such acts.

Because they're unattainable. People want what they can't have.

To answer the actual questions, buy a copy of Rules of the Game by Neil Strauss. Things will fall into place from there.

 

[Kaj]

I agree that you shouldn't over-do it. My gf thought it was quite cool at first when she saw me do it but we've been together now over a year and now she doesn't like it when I practice while she is there. She can't stand hearing the cards dribble etc. all the time.

Like Steerpike said, Neil Strauss' books might help you out some if you have a hard time socializing with women. And yes, I've got them too.