Hmmm... well it is interesting.
Being a female magician is hard. REALLY hard. I've gotten a lot of crap for it, mainly from immature people. And your right, message boards are hell. I use to post a lot at Ellusionist (now I don't post at all, anywhere) and in the beginning the PMs from random kids asking for a Myspace and picture and saying they knew I "had to be hot" or whatever... was really disheartening. I was there for the magic and no one could see that. It took so much time and energy to finally bring the image I wanted to myself. The guys though had a much easier time.
But I realized something, even though in the internet realm of magic I was eventually well respected, at least in the Ellusionist community, I still had confidence issues in real life. And my internet magic counterpart of myself was soaring ahead in knowledge, while in real life I had been so beaten down by the lack of confidence from people not giving me a chance before I even started that it just all fell apart. I haven't picked up cards or a book on magic in SO long. I could have been great. I could have been the next big thing. I knew people, I knew things. I have the love for magic, deep inside me. And it's not just me... it's so so so many girls. But society shook their heads. And I could only take so much before just saying "screw it".
Sucks.
-Katie